I’m watching TLC’s Perfect Proposal right now. Brian has had his wedding proposal mowed into a big hayfield and plans to have Tammy and himself flown over it in a small plane. He’s getting her up there under the pretense of viewing their new house from the air…She just doesn’t know about the proposal. It’s a really fun thing he did to surprise her, very creative. However…
I don’t know if Brian and Tammy were living together, but the fact the voiceover said “over their new house” made it sound that way. Okay, I’m having a very rare public politically-incorrect, narrowminded moment. I’m sorry, but to me, it’s kind of anticlimactic for there to be a big proposal and huge wedding if a couple’s already sharing a home.
The marriage license announcements in the paper have far more couples listed at the same address than not. It’s great they’re getting married, but it just shows how many people have chosen the “try it before you buy it” mentality. I believe marriage is important, that it means something more than just a piece of paper.
It just generally saddens me, as do many of the birth announcements. Parents with a shared married name are so few and far between in the birth announcements listed in the paper, too. I know society’s changed, that people view living together as acceptable. But to me, aside from the moral implications, it just reinforces the “my stuff vs. your stuff” mentality.
That’s not what marriage is all about, not to us at least. People who live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced, and I think it has a lot to do with never really coming into the relationship as a single unit.
I don’t hound people who live in ways other than what I believe are good. That’s for them to learn and decide on their own. They’re just missing out on a lot, I think. If you really love each other and intend to spend your lives together, why not marry? Reluctance to do so says to me that basic commitment is lacking.